tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1332679912742068186.post139071777125007112..comments2023-05-14T16:03:32.858+05:30Comments on Randomness: A preachy post - I've warned you!random ramblerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16556942584628591178noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1332679912742068186.post-65794924369697237062014-11-09T12:37:53.659+05:302014-11-09T12:37:53.659+05:30Thanks Reks, for a thought provoking article. As a...Thanks Reks, for a thought provoking article. As a mother, I've had my share of expecting my children to conform and perform, looking back, in areas that I decided would serve them well. As a recent psychologist and counsellor, I now have more information on how I could have helped them in the process of becoming 'successful'. All children are born with the instinctive knowledge of where their competence lies- a musically talented child takes to music lessons, a physical activity loving child takes to sports etc. While the extended environment could participate more actively in helping the child to explore its interests,the parent/caregiver has the closest access to watch out for what the child enjoys with a sense of competence. Like you said, parents approach success with a narrow definition. I've had parents discount their child's talent in say art or cooking for e.g. and continue to worry about lukewarm interest in academics. The situation is definitely changing though. There are more role models around us who've broken the stereotype and more parents seeking help to deal with 'their' frustration and anxiety.<br /><br />SarmishtaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09486803321923247654noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1332679912742068186.post-16167982041409298692013-03-06T07:37:03.993+05:302013-03-06T07:37:03.993+05:30Agree with most of your thinking.....two scenarios...Agree with most of your thinking.....two scenarios: would you rather have your children cuss you out later in life for providing enough and more activities and exposing them to a life that looking back they didn't care much for OR would you rather have your children cuss you out for not exposing them to enough experiences when they were young, the experiences that would have provided them with some sort of gauge to understand and explore their own aptitudes and pursue these in life? smustihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01266858689076750767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1332679912742068186.post-3297193022420173052013-03-05T16:36:07.065+05:302013-03-05T16:36:07.065+05:30This is not a preachy post Reks :)
Anyways, i gue...This is not a preachy post Reks :)<br /><br />Anyways, i guess we have a lot of unlearning to do as we only have our childhood experiences as an example (and while we definitely don't want to repeat the negatives, we find ourselves falling into that trap sometimes). But more and more parents are making a conscious choice to break away from this and really want the child to enjoy. Of course for every parent that does this, there are 10 others, if not more, that thrust so many activities at their kid under the pretext of broadening horizons. <br /><br />Another side of the coin, a devil's advocate, if you will - what if the kid wants to take up multiple activities, wants to conform but the parents want a laid-back lifestyle, don't conform, etc etc, is that still considered letting the child be?LGVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00120667123345641273noreply@blogger.com